Aquene decided to grace us with her presence 15 days beyond her expected date of arrival. I think that she needed Mars to move back so that she can make a grand entrance. So, on August 30, 2003 (the day after Mars moved back from the earth) she came earth side.
I woke up around 3:00am to do the usual bathroom run, but I awoke to contractions as well.
They were very intense and I was on my hands and knees in the living room when my oldest daughter saw me and asked if I needed her to go and get dad (hubby). I could barely speak and she went and got hubby. I was quite verbal, (moaning intensely) as well.
She ran and got hubby and he helped me into the bathroom cause I really had to pee. It had taken some time to get there due to the contractions. I wiped and there was a little blood and I told hubby and he woke up my son.
By this time my 2 and 3 daughter had gotten up and my second daughter had went to stay with our 2 year old. I got in bed while they got things ready for the birth, trying to deal with the contractions. The trough could not fill fast enough. My contractions were VERY intense.
I got in the trough even though it was not totally filled. I thought that it would help me cope as it did with my last birth. It didn't but I felt better just being in there.
This birth was very hard for me, VERY HARD! The hardest birth that I have ever had in my life!
I even got a sore throat due to my intense vocalizing. My hubby and my oldest daughter held my hands and my 3rd daughter rubbed my forehead. I was fighting back tears because of the pain and I kept yelling to my hubby that it hurts, it hurts, and it hurts so badly.
He, of course, said, "I know", and tried to comfort me but I yelled, "How in the F_____ do you know you &**#$@!" My oldest daughter said that I was cussing him out and they were laughing and thought it was hilarious. I do not remember all the things that I said to him. He said that it was more to do with the pain that I was having. It felt like my body was trying to split in half. I didn't know if I was going to make it. Hubby and my oldest daughter felt the same way. I was fighting to make it. I did not want to transfer like the many in my various birth groups were. I was not coping well.
Part of the time, I was not there. I was aware of the presence of my family, I could hear their voices, but I was not there.
I do remember coming to one point and asking hubby to check me to see if anything was happening. I wanted to make sure that there was no cord.
There was no cord and no baby. I felt so low, the pain, and all pushing. The pushing was even intense. I know now why, I was trying to push through a 9 lb baby that was also 19 inches long. I have never had a baby that size. She's my biggest, and I'm only 5'2.
I kept struggling, but determined to bring her through. I kept saying to myself that I am not transferring and I was disappearing again.
I heard voices and my hubby's voice focus in just for a minute, as he was saying one more, one more. I felt her and was trying to hold back because I didn't want her head born too fast. I lost that fight cause my body was taking over. Anyhow, I pushed and she came roaring out of me. I felt her, all 9 pounds of my baby passing from my birth canal. The feeling of that is unexplainable. It did not hurt or anything, but I have never had that feeling before. It was like almost a pleasurable feeling. I felt every part of her coming out of me.
Hubby grabbed her as she came out and announced that she was a girl and gave her to me. I was still not all there at the time. The minute that I held her to my chest, she went to sleep. I didn't know it at first. She was quiet for a while and I thought that there was something wrong and hubby said, "Nope, she's asleep." I brought her off of my chest to awaken her because I was scared that something was wrong and she looked at me, " Dang Ma, I am tired. I've done this before and I'm going back to sleep." And she did! She slept while I was looking at her and I held her for a bit until I started cramping pretty intensely.
After my placenta came out hubby clamped and cut her cord. When I stood up, blood came out like a bucket and it was streaming down my legs. I told hubby to get my wombstringe and hurry me to the bed.
I was worried that I was hemorrhaging. I laid back and told them to give me a few minutes to gain my strength. Hubby also brought me some grape juice.
After about 15-20 minutes I was ok and wanted to nurse, cuddle and smell my baby.
So, I was in labor at 3:00am (I am not sure if it was anytime before that due to me being asleep) and give birth at 5:40am.
Aquene Nyirah-Moon
August 30, 2003
@ 5:40am
9lbs and 0 ozs.
19 inches long
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